Wait! Before hitting the “Oh Sh*t” button on that angry email…give it 24-hours. I promise you’ll either delete it, or greatly temper it. Either way – you win.
All Badass Women Know This:
She Who Loses Her Temper First – LOSES
Slow your Roll – stay in control! Badass women know the power of controlling their emotions, especially anger. The second you lose your cookies and start yelling, is the same second you lose power and respect. The second you fire off a snarky, knee-jerk reaction email, is the same second your stock drops! Personally and professionally my friend!
The scariest thing in the world is a silent, smiling woman:
Right?! Aside from the fact that it will scare the crap out of most anyone, initial silence and a steady gaze into the eyes of the other person, can be an extremely powerful, effective weapon.
During a negotiation, the other side will fill in what you are thinking—to their detriment. Many times they’ll start back-peddling and making concessions without you having to utter a word. Sometimes I use it on Oliver, lol! 😉
At work, a knee-jerk email can erode your promotability
Anger is a loss of control. Some of the biggest personal and professional mistakes are made in the heat of anger. We say and do things we later regret. Today, there is the added element of the digital world, which means an angry email or online outburst not only travels at lightning speed, but it’s right there in black and white for all to see . . . forever.
At work, angry, knee-jerk reactions will erode your promotability. You’ll be seen as a loose cannon, ineffective in the face of adversity, with poor conflict resolution skills, and basically look like an ass. You cannot promote someone who is incapable of expressing anger in a controlled, effective manner. They’ll self-combust, reflecting poorly on the company.
The Smartest Rule You Should Follow Is This:
Slow Your Roll + WAIT 24-hours before firing off that angry email
In personal life, angry outbursts can permanently damage relationships, marriages and hurt the people you love. That isn’t good for anyone. Next time you find yourself pounding out an angry email/text to a friend or co-worker, or constructing a snarky social media rant, before hitting SEND, WAIT 24-hours.
I promise, you will either delete the email and be really happy that you did, OR you will rewrite your points in a much more professional, diplomatic way. Either way, you’ll be thankful that you waited.
Next time someone really annoys the crap out of you, and you really really REALLY want to pound out an angry email or POST . . . Step awaaaaaayyy from the keyboard!!!. WAIT 24-hours or at least until you’ve calmed down.
Yeah – I totally get that work-related issues can’t wait 24- hours for you to stop-drop-and-roll. Personally – I’d peel myself away from the desk and walk to get a cup of coffee or something. Anything to basically “break the energy.”
It always usually worked. I cannot truthfully say that I’ve never unleashed a few choice diatribes at the office on someone…ummm, who totally deserved it ;-). Ha!
If you need to vent, get it all out of your system in an email without sending. Make sure the TO field is blank, so that you don’t accidentally send it.
That would be awkward.
9 out of 10 times you won’t send the same email
IF you wait a day – or at least until you’ve calmed the Frick down – 9 times out of 10 you will either NOT send the message at all – OR you’ll soften the tone into one that’s way more productive!
It’s sort of like drunk-texting . . . you really don’t want to wake up the next morning, mortified at what you sent. Same idea.
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